A Father’s Day Resolution

Today, my Father & I discussed what we were going to do for Father’s Day which falls this Sunday 19 June. Then, i thought about if i should get him a gift and if so, what sort of gift should i get him. My father is a man who in his life has everything that he could possibly need at this point.

My father and I, we’ve always shared a special relationship. You know how people always say the middle child is always the forgotten child? In my case, i’ve always been spoilt rotten by my father. At least, that is how he makes me feel 🙂 Even till this day that i have passed the big 30. Once in a while, he asks me how come i grew up so quickly? And his favourite stories that he likes to repeat to me (& others) is how i wore diapers till i was in primary school (only at night though!!) and how i couldn’t walk till i was 18 months old. He never gets tired of these stories. 🙂

As the years pass, it pains me to see my parents growing old. And to be honest, the thought of losing them one day really scares me. At this age, they don’t really want anything but for us to be with them. If you haven’t been doing that, it really is time to do so.

There are a million material objects that i wish i could give him in return for all his love and support throughout the years. But i believe that the best thing i could gift him is time, my time. After getting married and moving out, I spent a lot less time with him. So this Father’s Day, my resolution is to make the extra effort to spend more time with him. Food and banter is what he loves most. As simple as that.

History of Father’s Day (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Father’s_Day)

Father’s Day is a celebration of fathers inaugurated in the early twentieth century to complement Mother’s Day in celebrating fatherhood and male parenting. Father’s Day is celebrated on a variety of dates worldwide and typically involves gift-giving, special dinners to fathers, and family-oriented activities.

The first observance of Father’s Day actually took place in Fairmont, West Virginia on July 5, 1908. It was organized by Mrs. Grace Golden Clayton, who wanted to celebrate the lives of the 210 fathers who had been lost in the Monongah Mining disaster several months earlier in Monongah, West Virginia, on December 6, 1907. It’s possible that Clayton was influenced by the first celebration of Mother’s Day that same year, just a few miles away. Clayton chose the Sunday nearest to the birthday of her recently deceased father.

Unfortunately, the day was overshadowed by other events in the city, West Virginia did not officially register the holiday, and it was not celebrated again. All the credit for Father’s Day went to Sonora Dodd from Spokane, who invented independently her own celebration of Father’s Day just two years later, also influenced by Jarvis’ Mother’s Day.

Clayton’s celebration was forgotten until 1972, when one of the attendants to the celebration saw Nixon’s proclamation of Father’s Day, and worked to recover its legacy. The celebration is now held every year in the Central United Methodist Church – the Williams Memorial Methodist Episcopal Church, South, was torn down in 1922. Fairmont is now promoted as the “Home of the First Father’s Day Service”.

A bill to accord national recognition of the holiday was introduced in Congress in 1913. In 1916, President Woodrow Wilson went to Spokane to speak in a Father’s Day celebration and wanted to make it official, but Congress resisted, fearing that it would become commercialized. US President Calvin Coolidge recommended in 1924 that the day be observed by the nation, but stopped short of issuing a national proclamation. Two earlier attempts to formally recognize the holiday had been defeated by Congress. In 1957, Maine Senator Margaret Chase Smith wrote a proposal accusing Congress of ignoring fathers for 40 years while honoring mothers, thus “[singling] out just one of our two parents” In 1966, President Lyndon B. Johnson issued the first presidential proclamation honoring fathers, designating the third Sunday in June as Father’s Day. Six years later, the day was made a permanent national holiday when President Richard Nixon signed it into law in 1972.